The matter of marriage in Islaam is a very crucial one that involves complete patience and prayers. We will be discussing some of its importance in this article.
Before going into the main topic, there is a subject matter we must understand and which is ” SELECTION OF SPOUSE”.
There is no doubt that the selection of a spouse is the very first thing to happen before marriage. So, Islaam permits asking and giving opinions if asked. We should never resort to deceiving the opposite party during the selection process. Such things can have serious repercussions if exposed after marriage.
The best method of selecting a spouse has been described to us by the noble Prophet SAW: He said: ” A man who marries a woman for the sake of her wealth, Allaah leaves him in his own condition, and one who marries her only for her beauty, will find in her things which he dislikes and Allaah will gather up all these things for the one who marries her for the sake of her faith ( religiousness)”.
In another narration, he (S.A.W) said: “Women are married for four things; her wealth, family, beauty and religion, hold on to the one with the religion so that you will be successful”.
In the words of the prophet SAW, one can be deduced that the very first to put into consideration while selecting a spouse is a religion after which is good nature followed by compatibility, decency, family, reason, physical and mental health e.t.c.
There are some restrictions based on who are we going to select as a spouse.
For a man: He is prohibited to marry his mother, daughter, paternal aunt, Maternal aunt, niece, foster mother, mother-in-law, stepdaughter, daughter in law, all married women, sister in law. ( Surotu-n-nisaa’4: 23- 24).
A woman: is prohibited to marry her: Father, son, paternal uncle, maternal uncle, foster brother, foster mother’s husband, father in law, stepson son-in-law.
Now we can move to the main point of discussion.
Allaah uses marriage to make those that are needy free from want out of His grace ( surotu-n- nuur :32). Also, the prophet SAW said, ” The best people of my nation are those who get married and have chosen their wives while the worst people of my nation are those who have kept away from marriage and are passing their lives as bachelors”.
The tells us that celibacy or keeping away from marriage is not tolerated at all in Islaam, but an important question is this, can anyone really keep away from marriage in the age ours?
Even though some of the people of the past generation have done so, can we afford it in this our time, we will surely find out the answer to this in the negation, certainly. So we have been advised numerously concerning this matter by the Prophet SAW in many of his Ahadith concerning this matter, one of this; He who is able to marry should get married or should keep to fasting as it is a shield. Then another comes in this way; marry the one with the religion, this is crucial advice, which all youth yet to marry should hold on to, May Allaah make it easy, Aameen.
Some of the importance of Marriage will be outlined below:
These is some of the rights which spouses have over one another:
The Husband: certainly, Islaam grants the husband certain well-defined rights upon his wife but must not be misused: “The best of you are those who are merciful their wives”.
The right of the husband:
- Protecting his home, wealth and children.
2. Obedience and authority
3. Good behaviour
4. Pleasing her husband.
The wife: the wife is also entitled to some rights from the husband:
Good treatment: the husband must share his wife’s affection, love, confidence and respect. ( Surotur ruum:21, surotu-n-nisaa’4:19).
Finally, let’s take an example from our Master, the noble Prophet SAW, let us check how he behaves with his wives and learn from them.
May Allah makes it easy for the ones yet to marry and make the married ones, a blessed one till eternity, Aameen.
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AsSaalimiy Aboo’Abdillaah.
